The starting point in therapy is often what feels wrong. No two people suffer in exactly the same way, but most of us have experience with feeling too much, thinking too much, getting stuck, or feeling alone. Our emotions — which evolved to give us such vital information about what we want, what we need, and what we should avoid — can become either overwhelming or blocked. This can leave us in conflict with, or cut off from, ourselves and other people.
We can think and talk forever about what feels wrong (and many of us are familiar with the rabbit holes our thinking can take us to) without anything really changing. In fact, we may end up feeling more and more defined by what is wrong in the process, coming to believe “there is something wrong with me.” It is only by bringing more of the (right) brain and body online that we have access to all of our resources for transformation. Using methods from psychodynamic, AEDP, and IFS therapy, I help my clients to locate what feels right and to bring about something new and positive, here and now.
Einstein said we can’t solve a problem with the same kind of thinking we used when we created it. Attachment research and neuroscience teach us that when we are alone and overwhelmed by difficult feelings and experiences, our ability to learn and grow is compromised, but not lost. The solution involves restoring our interrupted connection to what feels right: to our internal, wired-in capacities for curiosity, assertiveness, connection, and healing.